Filling Your Cup: The Importance of Self-Care

“Self-care is not selfish. You must fill your own cup before you can pour into others.”

Everyone feels depleted and rundown at times. Pain can zap your reserves, and so can factors like depression, anxiety, stress, a busy schedule, caregiving, grief, and loss. Self-care is crucial for your emotional and physical health. It’s what gives you the energy to meet the demands of your everyday life. What does self-care look like and how can you prioritize it? Read on for self-care activity suggestions and ways to build them into your life.

What Does It Mean to Fill My Own Cup?

Self-care is about finding time for activities that replenish your reserves, reduce your stress, and give you a sense of well-being. Self-care looks different for everyone, but it often involves making healthy choices around food, sleep, mental and physical activity, and nurturing social and spiritual connections. When you make time for self-care, your ‘cup’ is full and you have the energy to do the things you love with and for others.

If your self-care cup is empty, you won’t have energy for the everyday demands of life. It may seem counterintuitive, but you’re actually more productive when you make time for self-care. And it certainly isn’t selfish. Studies show that self-care practices can reduce your risk of depression, anxiety, and physical diseases.

“Engaging in a self-care routine has been clinically proven to reduce or eliminate anxiety and depression, reduce stress, improve concentration, minimize frustration and anger, increase happiness, improve energy, and more. From a physical health perspective, self-care has been clinically proven to reduce heart disease, stroke and cancer. — Matthew Glowiak, PhD

A Self-Care Menu

You can fill your cup in many different ways. Most self-care activities are free and take minimal time but offer immediate benefits to your well-being. Pick and choose from the self-care menu below to find a combination that works for you. You might need to try a lot of different techniques to find what works best. And this list is just a starting point! There are endless possibilities for unique self-care activities that replenish you.

How Can I Make Self-Care a Habit?

Like any new practice, self-care takes time and reminders to become a habit. Try setting your alarm clock 10 minutes earlier for morning meditation, or put a reminder on your phone to take a reading break. You could place an object in a prominent place to act as a memory cue. Whatever works for you!

You may also find that your self-care activities change over time, but there’s always something new that you can try to replenish your reserves. It’s normal for the “fullness” of your self-care cup to ebb and flow over time, and it’s okay if it sometimes seems empty. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you notice that you’ve neglected your self-care recently. Noticing is an important first step that lets you reorganize to prioritize you.

Take a few moments to ask yourself: How can I tell when I have neglected my needs? How do I feel when I make time for self-care? How can I build in daily reminders for self-care?

Key Takeaways

  1. Self-care is what you do to replenish your reserves, reduce stress, and foster a sense of well-being.

  2. There are many ways to practice self-care. The best self-care practices are the ones that work for you.

  3. Reminders can help you build self-care habits into your daily life.


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